If you read my last post about knowing when it was time to leave a job then you know what decision I made. I have been with this company for over 5 years and have worked my way up from a part-time receptionist to full-time office manager and bookkeeper and then came full circle to a full-time paralegal. I had signs that showed me this job wasn’t the one for me, but when I realized that then I also knew it was time to talk to my boss.
It’s hard to sit down with someone that you’ve gotten to know over the past few years to have a hard discussion with. Luckily for me, I can have a pretty open conversation with my boss and walk away feeling that it was productive. Here’s how I went about talking to my boss about wanting to leave:
1) start the dialogue and letting him know that you want to talk.
2) be honest with how you are currently feeling. Some may say that the workplace is not the place for feelings, but when you know someone for over 5 years and he’s seen a lot from you then it’s okay.
3) do not back down from what you want.
4) tell him the issues you are having – some may be personal and some may be the office procedures.
5) be flexible about leaving.
For me, there were some cases that we needed to finish up. Yes, I could have left him without any help, but that wouldn’t have been very nice. Plus, he’s been there for me in the past and the least I could do was be there. I sat down and had this conversation about a month before wanting to leave. That way we both had a specific date in mind and the chance to wind up some cases.
It’s never easy to start a new chapter in your life, but sometimes it’s a necessity. Do not let being miserable at your job make you an unhappy person. Life is too short to be angry and sad. Only you have the ability to make change happen.
If you dream of having a different life or a different career then realize that you might be standing in our own way. I had so many supportive people around me telling me it was okay to make a switch, but I had to finally believe it to make it happen.