Why I let my Bridesmaids pick out their own dress

If you have been living under a rock then you may not know that newest, hottest trend in weddings is having mismatched bridesmaid dresses.  I love the trend because that’s what I decided for my bridesmaids.  I mean, I am sure that my girls would have loved to wear some fluffy, pink tulle thing with a bow on the butt.  Who wouldn’t want to wear something that’s uncomfortable and costs about half of your monthly living expenses?

mismatched bridesmaid dresses
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mismatched bridesmaid dresses
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mismatched bridesmaid dresses
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I decided when J and I were first talking about getting married that I wanted nothing to do with searching and searching for a bridesmaid dress that fit all my girls, in my color scheme and didn’t cost a small fortune.  They can figure that out!

It was important to me to have my girls feel beautiful.  There is nothing worse than not feeling confident in a dress that you are having to wear all day, be photographed over hundreds of times, and be plastered all over facebook.  I wanted to avoid that and I’m sure they are grateful … at least I hope.

I did not necessarily give my bridesmaids free reign to find a dress.  I did establish a few guidelines for when they were out looking for a dress.

1) navy
2) knee length
3) eggplant, dark purple heels

That’s it.  Only 3 parameters to follow.

I hinted at this part before, but it’s pretty big so I’m going to say it.  I delegated the stress of finding a dress for everyone.  I had a hard enough time finding a dress for me, a tux look for J and his guys, catering choices, song choices, and not gaining 100 lbs from other pressure points.   My girls know what they like and don’t like, I do not.

If you decide to let your bridesmaids pick their own dress, please be prepared for your family’s reaction.  I have family that keeps asking if I had my girls go to David’s of J. Crew with a certain color code to find a dress, if I selected a specific brand that they had to find a dress under, blah, blah, blah… and the answer is no.  N-O.  I think it keeps freaking out people that I really do not care.

The best part – All my girls have sent me pictures of their dresses or I’ve seen the one they have bought and can I tell you something?  They are better than anything I could have picked out!

Perfection!

Cheers!

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Meredith Rines, MBA, CFP®, a budget and financial strategist helping families pay off debt and live the life they've always wanted.

2 thoughts on “Why I let my Bridesmaids pick out their own dress

  1. I love that! A close friend who I was a bridesmaid for last year did that and we all LOVED it! I had a baby 2 months prior and all of us have different body types and tastes. It’s impossible to find a dress that looks good on everyone! GREAT choice!!

    1. Thanks! That’s exactly what I was thinking. Plus, I’m asking my girls to travel over 3 hours for the weekend, the least I could do was not pick a $300 dress!

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